Becky Makous

M.A. Counseling Psychology

Growing up in many countries around the world, I had the chance to practice the skill of creating new connections. My curiosity about what makes a healthy relationship deepened after witnessing my parents' divorce. My personal relationship journey has led me to explore my ethically non-monogamous (ENM) and queer identities, which has enriched my expertise in fostering sustainable and fulfilling relationships. I'm particularly passionate about relationship repair.

My therapeutic approach is grounded in empathy, respect, and collaborative engagement. I draw from evidence-based methodologies that include Gottman Method Couples Therapy, client-centered therapy, attachment theory, and body-based, mindfulness practices. I customize my holistic approach to meet the unique needs and objectives of each client or couple.

As a licensed counseling psychologist registered with the Netherlands Institute of Psychologists (NIP), I hold an M.A. in Counseling Psychology from Webster University. My academic career included conducting original research into the factors that contribute to relationship and sexual satisfaction in both monogamous and ENM relationship practices. I really love this work!

Based in The Hague, Netherlands, I offer sex therapy and couples in English, both online and in-person. I am culturally competent and kink-aware, and specialize in serving the ethnically non-monogamous and LGBTQ+/ queer communities.

Becky is currently primarily offering couples counseling.

Learn more about Becky’s counseling style in this interview with Noomii

Academic Background and Trainings

Academic Background:

  • University of Vermont, B.A. in Psychological Science and a minor in Global Studies.

    • Teacher’s assistant for Human Sexuality class

    • Studied European Clinical Psychology while studying abroad in Copenhagen

  • Webster University Leiden Campus, M.A. in Counseling Psychology

    • Conducted original mixed-methods research, examining sexual and relationship satisfaction among monogamous and consensually non-monogamous relationship practices.

Trainings:

Licensed through the Nederlands Instituut van Psychologen, #243031

Registered at the KVK, #86275178

Testimonials

  • “Becky created such an accepting environment - it really helped me open up and be honest with my partner and myself. I learned how to be more communicative, how to not take things personally but instead work with my partner to find a solution, and how to prioritize intimacy in our relationship.”

    Female, age 30

  • "The calls with Becky were some of the most helpful and productive for my growth. The homework, exercises, and role play helped a lot. She helped me understand things that didn't make sense to me as much, and how to tune into those in a way that compliments who I already am. Stepping into a power of something I previously didn't even understand was a major growth for me."

    Male, age 32

  • "Becky is empathetic, vulnerable, present, validating, and truly connects with her clients. I recommend her to my closest family and friends for whatever goals they are trying to achieve or difficulty to work through. I look forward to continuing my healing journey with the tools she has equipped me with. Thank you!"

    Female, age 34

  • "I've spoken about this process with so many people and all have been blown away. I'm quite a different person these days thanks to you. My former partner and I are very close and see each other a lot and I'd say our relationship is better now than before. Thank you."

    Male, age 46

  • "I learned to put myself first. I realized what I was asking for in a partner I was neglecting with myself. Before I can move forward in redefining my relationship and relationship with others, I needed to find me again."

    Female, age 35

  • "Becky creates a sacred space in her sessions. She honors the relationship between us and brings a feeling of gratitude and openness that creates a beautiful feeling of safety and vulnerability."

    Male, age 62

  • "I am grateful for your kind attention and skilled listening and observations. I was surprised by how deep our work went so easily and quickly thanks to you and our mutual trust. In particular, the bearthwork and "inner child" explorations were so effective at helping me reframe old painful stories, I carry that new knowledge with me."

    Male, age 59